In 1997, my sister insisted on being called ‘Hannah’ for 6 months… what’s the big deal you ask? Well, that wasn’t her birth name she just decided Hannah suited her more and that until she decides differently that’s her name.

In 2018, my 3 year old has decided he is a dog. Yep. Walks on all fours, doesn’t mind a belly rub and hangs out outside with his pack. He is the leader of the pack because he was seen biting our Maltese ‘Wheelbarrow’ putting him in his place.

In 1997 my parents went along with me having a sister by a different name. They didn’t argue or get offended that she no longer liked to be called by her birth name. They knew that one day she would either legally change her name OR she would go back to her original name and she did, one day at lunch. It was a simple change over that included an eye roll ‘Hannah’s not my name’.

Back to 2018 my kids a dog and that’s a little weird but he is also outside 99% of the time, he is playing with our pets and he is always up for a cuddle. It doesn’t faze me, I don’t think he needs to see someone. I don’t think that there is something wrong.

When did it become a thing that our kids aren’t normal kids because they aren’t behaving like grownups?

I’m fully aware of how quickly kids grow up, one minute they’re dogs and the next you will be teaching them how to drive cringing at the time they walked on fours.

Remembering that my three year old is discovering who he is, his place in the world, he doesn’t have expectations or knowledge about the world outside his.

The world can be scary, but if you allow your child’s world to be what they want… then they will probably make the world a better place because they know exactly who they are, they’ve been supported, they’re loved for who they are and it doesn’t matter what name they go by.

If your child isn’t in danger, is it really a big deal? Don’t let the outside world’s opinions on ‘normal’ effect the discovery of your child’s inner self.

 

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