Having twins or triplets will bring so many different emotions into your life, some you have probably never felt before. It is such an exciting, stressful and full on time in your life. You have to double or triple EVERYTHING you do now. Multiply the nappies, feeds, changes, naps, washing – oh the washing! And through all of that, you need to also find the time to have one on one time with your babies. One on one time with your newborn is a crucial task that is encouraged as much as possible. There are so many benefits to one on one time with your newborn, both for you and your baby. Some of these include hormone balancing, bonding and if you are breastfeeding it will help with your production.
Having multiple babies to try and have one on one time with can be difficult, especially if you have been lucky enough to get them into a routine of sleeping at the same time and waking at the same time. We have put together a few tips that can help you to ensure you are getting quality one on one time with each of your babies.
Invest in a swing (or two!)
A swing can be a lifesaver during the first few months. Having it gently swinging and playing music can calm a baby like no human can ever hope for. During the day alternate putting one child in the swing whilst you are cuddling and playing with the other. This means that the other baby is still being stimulated and playing whilst you are able to have some time with the other baby. Play mats are also great for this. The ones that have the overhead toys that they can look at and try to reach up to will help keep them occupied. Being able to spend time during the day with each of your babies on their own will help tremendously.
When feeding your little ones, whether it is breast or bottle try to have skin to skin contact with them as much as possible. If you are breastfeeding this is a lot more simple with both of you having the top halves of you uncovered. If you are bottle feeding try taking your shirt off and holding bub against you with the bottle so they are still getting the skin to skin contact. There have been numerous studies that show skin to skin contact to be very beneficial.
Bath time is a great opportunity to spend a bit of one on one time with your little one. Playing in the water with them and giving them a little massage after taking them out will not only help to relax them but will put a smile on everyone’s face.
Ask for and accept help
The final tip which is a pretty straight forward one, which many of us may have trouble accepting is – ask for help! Or if someone offers help – Take it. As mothers, we want to be able to do everything and be able to do it all on our own. Do not feel guilty or bad for accepting help. Letting a family member or friend come over and help out with one baby whilst you are spending time with the other not only helps you, but it gives the babies a chance to be social and lets all your clucky friends have some newborn time as well.
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