Jane Kilkenny

Jane Kilkenny

By: Jane Kilkenny


When we are subjected to an event that creates high levels of stress we can control the level of impact we sustain. Biologically our fight or flight response will kick in if there is imminent risk and this is our natural response to avoid danger. However when there are events that cause sustained periods of stress, such as the current Co-VID 19 outbreak, we need to be mindful of our reactions.

Focus on remaining calm and it will benefit our kids and promote family harmony. Episodes of stress trigger physiological responses in our bodies. Before we are even aware of the trigger our heart and breathing rates can elevate, initiating the start of the fight and flight response. However if we recognize these reactions immediately, control our breathing and replace the negative thoughts with a calm and relaxed response it will change the outcome.

When we react with negative thoughts and emotions it creates a frenzy of negativity that feeds off itself. Our heart rate goes up, our breathing rate goes up, we feel stressed, angry, frustrated and our behavior is affected.

An excellent way to control our stress response is to focus on our breathing. Removing yourself from the stressful environment, even for a few moments, will help you calm down. Find somewhere quiet to sit, close your eyes, and focus on each breath.

Now is a great time to teach your children how to relax and control their emotional responses. There are going to be times when we feel overwhelmed, that is unavoidable right now, but think about impact for yourself and those around you.

My top 5 tips for remaining calm:

  • Spend time in nature.
  • Read a book.
  • Listen to music.
  • Daily digital detox. (60 minutes minimum)
  • LAUGH out loud. It’s impossible to feel stressed and frustrated when we laugh.

MINDSET – it is within your control.

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