Mummy To Twins Plus One

Mummy To Twins Plus One

I have Crisis Fatigue 

So, what is this condition?  Well, it is not a real documented medical condition but has been discovered that it can cause stress, low motivation, depression, hopelessness, exhaustion, and mental overload. See my go at a dictionary definition below. 

Noun 
Being inundated with constant disasters and crises that you are so tired, physically exhausted, and also mentally drained. 

I don’t know about you, but I am so exhausted all the time.  Have you found that you seem to have Crisis Fatigue as well? If so, I am not surprised after the year we had last year.  

Always on the go and always ensuring that the family is okay.  

I’ve spoken to many other mums and they have all confirmed what I have long suspected, the stress that we have faced last year accompanied by other tragedies have created constant fatigue that is not going away. 

Mums are the parent that keeps on going no matter what. You get woken at all hours, you worry about everything and take care of everyone and all the while overlooking your needs.  

Throw in a car accident that meant that we had to get a new car, add being out of work, constant bushfires and watching the “Fires Near Me App” like our lives depended on it (well it did), then some flooding for good measure and a global pandemic for the icing on the cake. 

I never thought I would ever live through a pandemic.  The news was scary and the thought of getting was sick horrible.  

Quickly we had all three kids home and were homeschooling the twins, and caring for the youngest as we couldn’t keep him in care with no money coming in.  

Hubby and I were applying for any job we could do and everything in between and not getting anywhere. It was and still is a tough market, millions are out of work. A few recruitment firms got back to me and mentioned that due to the pandemic they were not hiring, and contracts were on hold. So, no jobs to apply for, but why were there job advertisements seeking employees? So sad and stressful to say the least. 

I had a few moments where I fell in a heap in my youngest’s room and just cried and cried. I didn’t know how we were all going to survive. How would we pay our bills? How will we keep our house and feed ourselves? We have worked so hard for what we have, and I did not want to lose it all because of a virus.  

Whatever we were trying to do was not helping. How can we get work if no one is hiring? How do I work if I cannot afford to put a kid in care? How do I manage to work when I never get left alone? It was beyond tough. 

We just had to hold on and to solider on.  

Hubby took on odd jobs and has been mowing people’s yards. I have been writing articles and in November last year finally got a contract to bring in some much-needed money.  

Like many worldwide, we are behind on everything. We have called everyone and told them what we can pay and are sticking to that until things improve.  

The last two years feels like it has been non-stop battle and extremely tough! 

I am drooling over going away somewhere for to finally relax. A beach or island getaway where I can just not worry, get looked after and of course sleep in. 

This holiday will have to wait, we don’t have the cash so travel is not happening. If we did decide to travel, I fear we might need to be isolated upon our return and at our own cost…so no travel aside from local for us.   

Living on the edge all the time is stressful and one that I think hasn’t been helpful. Hubby and I are in dire need of some time out and relief.  We are feeling like shells of the people we once were and need to invest in more family and fun.  

I am glad that Australia has done so well with their response to COVID-19 and saddened that other countries are still in lockdown and have tougher restrictions.  

 

Are you also suffering from Crisis Fatigue? If so, you are not alone.  

One cure for Crisis Fatigue is a holiday or time out on your own, a chance to finally reboot your battery. I think I need 3-6 months break to finally be functioning at pre-crisis mode.  

Wouldn’t it be nice to go to the doctor and they prescribe a holiday, and it is paid for magically by the …I can only wish! 

How are you doing? Have you realized that you have been in reactionary mode at all times?  

The hard part of dealing with this stress is that we are still living through the pandemic and there is no end in sight currently. We need to look at how we carry on with what we are labelling the new normal. Dealing with distance, not a lot of travel and the uncertainty of more restrictions and closures at any time. 

Here are some tips that might help you out 

  • One way to help you feel better is to pick a few things that give you joy and actively decide to do them. 
  • Also,make sure you take time to have self-care and rest. If you are always giving to others you need to look after you so that you don’t fall in a heap.  
  • Oh,and make sure that you turn off the news to tune out and not focus on the disasters and trauma in the world. 

Let us know what you are doing to make you and the family feel better and tell us how you fared during lockdown last year.