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Let’s talk about sex, baby!
It may not be something that is on your mind straight after giving birth, however it is a conversation that will need to be had at some point in the months following the birth. It is important that both you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to sex and getting back into it.
After giving birth to twins or triplets, sex probably isn’t something that is high on your priorities list for many reasons including being extremely tired and just not being in the mood.
When should I start having sex again?
This is a question that can not be answered by anyone but yourself. It is a personal choice and it can take some couples a few months before they begin exploring in the bedroom again.
It is important to wait until after your 6 week post-partum check up with the doctor to ensure that you are healing well and will not do any damage or cause any extreme pain to yourself.
Whether you have had a natural birth or a c-section, you still need to take it easy on your body and not get back into heavy exercise ? until your body feels up to it.
What if I am not ready?
It may get to a point where your partner is ready to jump back into bed but you aren’t quite ready yet.
This is completely normal and it is important that you sit down with your partner and talk about how you are feeling and that you are not ready to start having sex again yet.
It is different for your partner as they did not have to give birth and have their bodies go through the process of birth. They may not understand completely what you are going through and the effect that it has on you.
Be open with them and explain how you are feeling both physically and emotionally and help them to understand why you are hesitant to start again.
Will it be the same as before I gave birth?
Everyone heals differently and each body goes through its own changes during pregnancy and birth, so it is hard to say whether it will be the same or not.
Many women may feel self-conscious after giving birth which can make them feel uncomfortable in the bedroom as they are worried about how they look both to themselves and to their partner.
The first few times after giving birth may feel different or uncomfortable as your body is still healing and getting use to the routine again.
If you start experiencing pain that is unbearable or causes you to hurt in different spots, than it is important to stop and to speak to your GP about it, to make sure that there is no underlining cause for the pain.
Will my sex drive be the same?
Many women say that after giving birth to twins or triplets that they feel they have a lower sex drive for the months following.
There are many reasons that this may happen including your hormones still returning to normal after being all over the place during pregnancy, the lack of sleep and energy that comes with having multiples and also simply just not having the motivation to have sex.
There are a few natural ways that you can help to increase your sex drive if that is something that you want to do. Ways can include taking vitamins and herbs that are said to help with increasing sex drive, having a child free date night with your partner so that you can spend time alone together and also going out shopping and buying yourself some new lingerie that helps you feel more confident in the bedroom.
At the end of the day, it is a decision that comes down to you and how you are feeling.
At no point should you feel pressured to start having sex again and you definitely should not get back into it if it is not something that you want to do.
Be open with your partner about your feelings and take it one day at a time.
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