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Our life from the children’s point of view
Recently we acknowledge National Coming Out Day, an annual event recognised on October 11 every year motivated to create a time when we can stop and reflect on how life has changed since ‘coming out’ and provide a moment where those struggling with coming out can see that it does get better…
So, in recognition of this I got my own children to stop for a moment and to share with me their thoughts about growing up in a same-sex family. The questions are written by two of their friends and the answers are the boys’ words; I did correct spelling mistakes and one or two grammar challenges – not sure should I blame the children or their school!
Names have been changed to protect the innocent, so each child was asked to duck into the garden and find an item to call themselves – the names they choose could be interesting reflections of personality; but that’s for another blog!
Here are the questions and answers in the boy’s own words:
What is it like to have two dads?
OPAL: I guess it is kinda fun
BOLDER: Umm, it’s kinda fun and a bit annoying how people ask silly question like “how where you born”
PUPPY: Not really that different
How did you get born without a mum?
OPAL: I was born from my aunty
BOLDER: Same as my brothers
PUPPY: I don’t know, it’s hard, it’s a long process dad told me about once
Do you miss not having a mum?
OPAL: Sometimes, but I kinda like having two dads – so I miss what people tell me about what a mum is
BOLDER: Not really at all – at least I still have a parent who loves me; it doesn’t really bother me to be honest.
PUPPY: Not really, I don’t know what it’s like to have a mum I just have two dads
How do you tell people you have two dads?
OPAL: I just tell them “I have two dads”
BOLDER: I just tell them that “I don’t have a mum; I just have two dads”
PUPPY: I just tell them “I have two dads”
Why do you think some people don’t like families like yours?
OPAL: There are people who don’t like families like mine?
BOLDER: Because people make silly judgements about things they don’t know about.
PUPPY: Because they don’t like gay people – I don’t care, love is love and our family is all about love – so who cares what they think
Do you like having two dads?
OLDER: Yes, because it makes us a bit more well connected
BOLDER: I like having two dads because it’s kinda nice having only boys in the house as the main family
PUPPY: Yes, I just like it!
* If you are interested, the question writers choose to be known as LEAF and HOSE-TAP
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