The Wellness Poet
Let’s face it as a Mum we all want to be spoiled on Mother’s Day. The traditional breakfast tray in bed, home-made cards, flowers and a day off from cooking and cleaning! For some women this is a possibility, but for many others it’s like a Hollywood movie, and there ain’t no “Happy-ever-after Fairy” waiting to wash the school uniforms for Monday!
Among my friends I have; single parents, widows, childless women, women who’ve recently lost their mums (or a child), working mums, stay at home mums, step-mums, foster mums and so on… So many different situations that the Hollywood version of Mother’s Day, is just not their movie. It’s possible that those women could resent Mother’s Day. The booked-out restaurants, over-priced flowers, and commercialisation of presents (just another season in the shops) etc. I get it, it doesn’t seem fair really.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and I’m considering contacting women who fit into the categories above and saying, “Hey, do you wanna do something on Mother’s Day? Do you want to meet at the park, order pizza and let our kids run wild while we lay on a blanket and laugh, forget about flowers and breakfast trays and booked-out restaurants!”
Shall we decide that Mother’s Day is also Mum’s appreciating other Mum’s for all that they do in society and that we can help and support each other regardless of our circumstances. Shall we make Mother’s Day the one day a year when all Mum’s; Stop, thank themselves, acknowledge the role they play, reflect on the contribution of Mum’s before them, and be grateful for how far we have come, and then just sit and BE with no place to BE.
So here are some of my tips to help support other Mum’s this Mother’s Day.
- If you are lucky enough to have the Hollywood Mother’s Day you might decide that you want to share your good fortune with another Mum who is less fortunate than you, and take her out to lunch.
- You might decide that a gathering of women in your local park is a good idea.
- You may want to buy a box of chocolates for a Mum you really admire who is doing it hard, or offer to have her kids for a few hours so she can go for some time-out.
- You may want to let other women know that you are thinking about them and wishing them well, and not be too boastful about how spoiled you were on Mother’s Day!
Maybe it seems I’ve just suggested some work for you to do when actually you can feel OK about being spoiled, and loved and cherished on Mother’s Day. You don’t need to feel guilty. You do deserve it. However, for me Mother’s Day is starting to feel like a day for some, not for the many and I’m mindful of all the women who dream of the Hollywood story whilst real-life is very different. And to those women I want to say; you are loved, you are appreciated, you are important and you are not alone!
Krissy Regan is The Wellness Poet and Founder of Mindful Mums Queensland. She is author of 2 new books; Broken to Unbreakable, 12 Steps to an Unbreakable Mind, Body & Spirit and The Koala who Lost his Heart. Krissy wrote both books whilst working part-time at home, raising 2 small children and juggling the demands of her household.
Krissy offer’s workshops, retreats and 1-1 coaching and launched her global online wellness school at the start of 2021. You can register right here; https://krissy-regans-wellness-movement-mindful-mums-3.teachable.com/
You can contact Krissy Regan at mindfulmumsqld@gmail.com or follow Mindful Mums Qld on Facebook and Instagram @mindfulmumsqld and view Krissy’s work here: https://www.thewellnesspoet.com/
