Elise Clement
Decision paralysis is real! When we are faced with choices, no matter how many options we have, what do we tend to do? Overthink, ruminate, procrastinate…and freeze! We put pressure on ourselves to find the best decision. The fear of getting it wrong is often what gets us stuck and unable to move forward. But what if there was no such thing as a wrong decision?
“The key to life isn’t making the right decision. It’s making the most out of the decision you made.” Kate Northrup
Nothing is forever
When I was considering quitting my corporate job a few years ago, I remember the decision-making process felt excruciating. I kept looking at it from all angles, weighing the pros and cons for months on end and feeling stuck: “I don’t know what the best decision is!”. My belief was that there was a right decision and a wrong one, the one I didn’t want to make. The one that was irremediable, like a life sentence of sorts. Could I live with the consequences of making the wrong decision? There seemed to be a lot at stake: my career and the sense of identity I attached to it, financial security, to name a few. But what I forgot is that change is part and parcel of life. Nothing is forever. We can change our minds and course correct if we give ourselves permission to. Progress is what matters most.
It’s not the decision that counts, it’s the journey.
So, I made a decision, and I ran with it. Even though the path I chose wasn’t smooth sailing, I felt like I was making progress towards my goals. That’s my biggest lesson: making a decision, any decision, equals making progress on your journey. It opens a path forward and keeps the momentum of your life going. Because ultimately, it’s not the decision (aka the destination) that counts, it’s the journey. When we have the courage to make a choice and take the next step, we will always be in a position of growth: we will learn along the way, extract nuggets of gold, lessons and insights that will inform our next decision, our next choice. I talk more about it in this short clip: “the journey is the destination”. Like a GPS that recalculates the route according to which road we take, our internal compass will adjust our destination according to the path we choose.
Trust the process
Bringing trust to the process is key in order to make the most out of any decision you make. And yes, trusting the process is also a choice! There’s an exercise I often encourage my clients to do in order to reflect on their life experiences and appreciate what got them to where they are today. I call it the “twists and turns”. They often come to the realisation that everything they went through, the joys and the sorrows, the highs and the lows, the obstacles and the challenges, all of them contributed to making their life the rich tapestry that it is, while helping them cultivate important human qualities such as resilience and discernment. It’s impossible to see clearly where a specific decision will lead you, but one thing is for sure: clarity comes from taking action. Take one step and trust the process.
If you’re at a crossroads and would like personalised support to navigate decision making, you can book an introductory session with me here.
