Tag Archives: Coercive Control

What if control over money isn’t really about money? 💔

You might think financial abuse means someone taking their partner’s money.

But sometimes it looks much quieter.

Being told what you can spend.
Having no access to the family bank account.
Being stopped from working.
Having debt put in your name.
Being denied money for groceries, medication or the kids.
Being made to feel that you have no choice but to depend on someone else.

And when you’re a parent, financial control can become even more complicated.

Taking time out of work to care for children can naturally create financial dependence. That isn’t abuse.

The warning sign is when someone deliberately uses that dependence to control your choices, restrict your freedom or make it harder for you to leave.

Economic and financial abuse is now expressly recognised in Australian family law as a form of family violence.

But what does it actually look like behind closed doors?

And how can you tell the difference between a normal financial arrangement and financial control?

💛 We explore the signs, the law, the impact on children and what parents need to know.

What if family violence doesn’t look like what you think it does?

It isn’t always physical. It can be controlling the money, monitoring a phone, isolating you from family and friends, stalking, intimidation, threats or using children as a way to maintain control.

For parents, recognising what is happening can be incredibly difficult — especially when you’re trying to keep your children safe while navigating fear, finances, housing and what to do next.

The good news? You don’t have to wait for things to get worse before reaching out.

Our latest article explores how early legal support, safety planning and family violence support services can help create clearer boundaries, safer arrangements and practical options for parents and children.

💛 If something doesn’t feel right, trust that feeling. Knowing where to turn can be the first step towards safety.

👉 Read the full article to understand your options and the support available to Victorian families.