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The digital dilemma every parent knows too well
If you’ve ever tried to pry a tablet, phone, or gaming console out of your child’s hands, only to be met with protests, tears, or slammed doors—you’re not alone. Parenting in the digital age can feel overwhelming. Screens are everywhere, and managing their use is one of the toughest challenges for Australian families.
“Just five more minutes!” is a phrase many parents hear daily. Devices are often the first thing children reach for in the morning and the last thing they put down at night.
The numbers tell the story. Australian children now spend, on average, over four hours a day on screens outside schoolwork—more than time spent exercising, playing outdoors, or talking face-to-face with family (AIFS). Many parents quietly admit they’re worried.
As one Melbourne mum told The Australian:
“My daughter says she hates how much she scrolls, but she doesn’t know how to stop. It feels bigger than both of us.”
(The Australian)
It’s not just about lost time. Excessive screen use has been linked to poor sleep, rising anxiety, and lower academic performance. But here’s an important reminder: struggling with screen time doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every family is figuring this out, and there’s no single “right” approach.
Schools and government step in
Australia is taking the issue seriously. In 2025, the federal government introduced legislation that will ban children under 16 from using social media unless platforms adopt strict age-verification systems (AP News).
At the same time, many states are trialling school phone bans. In Victoria, students hand in their mobiles before class and cannot access them during recess or lunch. Teachers are already reporting calmer classrooms and fewer incidents of playground bullying
“Mobile phones banned from all NSW public high schools from today”
This article discusses the introduction of mobile phone bans in public high schools across various Australian states, including Victoria. It highlights the alignment of Victoria’s policy with those in New South Wales, South Australia, Western Australia, and the Northern Territory, aiming to reduce distractions and enhance student focus during school hours. (ABC News).
But as every parent knows, the real challenge begins at home, because screens don’t magically turn off after the school bell.
Experts: “Connection over control”
Psychologist Jocelyn Brewer, founder of Digital Nutrition, emphasises that technology isn’t the enemy:
“It’s not about banning technology—it’s about teaching kids how to use it in a balanced way. Just like food, not all digital experiences are equal.”
(Digital Nutrition)
She reminds parents that quality matters more than quantity. Educational apps, creative platforms, and video calls with family are very different from endless TikTok scrolling.
Child psychiatrist Dr Michael Carr-Gregg adds:
“When parents take a purely authoritarian stance, it can push kids into secrecy. The goal should be open conversations and agreed boundaries.”
(SBS News) “Parents across Australia report daily struggles managing screen time, with many feeling overwhelmed or unsure how to set limits.”
Both experts agree: you don’t need to remove screens completely. Instead, build trust, model healthy habits, and teach digital literacy, skills that will serve children for life.
Why screens are hard to switch off
Screens are designed to be engaging. Games, apps, and videos use colours, sounds, and rewards to keep children hooked. When your child resists turning off a device, it’s not defiance—it’s a normal human response. Recognising this can reduce stress for parents and help you approach the situation with empathy rather than frustration.
Remember: every small step counts. Even tiny changes—like a device-free dinner or a nightly “digital sunset”—are wins for your child’s wellbeing.
Practical strategies families can try this week
✅ Co-create boundaries
Involve your child in setting limits. Kids are more likely to follow rules they helped create.
✅ Tech-free zones
Keep devices out of bedrooms and off the dinner table. Children who sleep without devices nearby fall asleep faster and get better rest
According to the Raising Children Network, screen time and digital technology use before bed can affect when children and teenagers fall asleep and how well they sleep. You can reduce these risks by encouraging children and teenagers to avoid screens in the hour before bed. It’s best to keep phones and other digital devices out of bedrooms at night. Raising Children
Additionally, the Raising Children Network suggests establishing family rules about screen time and digital technology use, such as keeping digital technology out of bedrooms at night. Raising Children
By following these guidelines, families can help children develop healthier sleep habits and reduce the negative impacts of excessive screen time.
✅ Agree on digital sunsets
Switch off screens at least one hour before bed. Replace scrolling with calming routines like reading, stretching, or listening to music.
✅ Model balance yourself
Children learn by example. If you’re glued to your phone, they’ll follow suit. Demonstrating healthy device use is more effective than lecturing.
✅ Offer engaging alternatives
Board games, family walks, or cooking together are fun ways to replace screen time. Children respond better when they have enjoyable options.
✅ Encourage digital literacy
Teach kids to question what they see online, understand algorithms, and recognise apps designed to keep them hooked.
✅ Practice empathy
It’s normal for children to resist boundaries. Take a breath, listen to their frustrations, and approach limits with compassion.
Raising mindful digital citizens
Technology is here to stay. Today’s children will need digital skills for almost every career, but they also need the resilience to manage online pressures.
As Brewer reminds us:
“We don’t want to raise kids who are scared of technology. We want kids who are smart, savvy, and in charge of it.”
The shift starts at home. Every small, consistent step, tech-free meals, mindful discussions, or modelling balance—helps children build lifelong skills. Connection, patience, and understanding matter far more than strict enforcement.
So the next time your child begs for “five more minutes,” take a breath. You don’t need to win every battle. What matters most is the relationship you’re nurturing and the skills your child is developing along the way.
